Love The One You're With
Ah yes, another Valentine's Day has come and gone.
A day full of love, champagne, and fireworks of romance shooting out of your ass when you see the one you love. A day of social media bombardment of pictures of couples embracing and thanking each other for putting up with one another for the last 364 days since last Valentine's Day.
What a beautiful holiday.
If you know me, you know that I've been in a long-term relationship for the last 3+ years. Way back in 2014 when we first started dating, I was a huge wuss and sucky baby for any holiday that had to do with love, celebration or anything in general. My boyfriend is the opposite.
I used to get so upset and throw a hissy fit when we didn't celebrate a "fairytale" holiday and take corny pictures and smother our love in peoples' faces. For years, my boyfriend has been trying to show me that there are more important things than trying to make people jealous. For instance: just loving the one you're with.
So Mike, as much as you're gonna hate this, this post is happening all thanks to you.
As time has passed and we've become more comfortable with each other (and essentially morphed almost into one being) you've taught me to appreciate and be thankful for what I've been given, rather than try and become something I'm not. I've learned that a relationship doesn't have to be showy or a social media spectacle to be meaningful. In fact, trying to make it so can actually greatly damage a relationship.
Putting a relationship all out on the table for the world to see and be a part of is catastrophic. I've learned that as time goes on, the only people who really need to know the ins and outs of your relationship are the people that are in it. First of all, because some people won't agree with everything that goes on in it, and second of all, because they might not understand certain aspects of why things are the way they are.
Since I've decided to let go of all the fluff and sparkles of a picture perfect relationship, I find that I've actually helped my relationship grow. I'm more in love than ever because the precious and (often) goofy moments I used to try and capture on camera and showcase to the world are now super special because they're for me, and only me.
Now I'm just happy I get to be able to love the one I'm with.